I am writing this article in conjunction to having a talk with my friend and his prime complaint was that no body values him and his work. Not exaggerating, but he would use the phrase "People don’t appreciate me" after each complaint. He was so depressed and broken that he decided to quit his job in search for a place where his work would be appreciated and he would be respected.
I inquired about his daily work routine to understand why he felt that he was not being recognized by his boss or his colleagues. Why was it that he was not able to get his work recognized? On speaking with him I understood that he was not showing the value of the work that he did.
From my past experience I understand that a person does not show value in anything if he/she does not value himself/herself. If you value yourself, you automatically start to exhibit value of your work.
This issue of not valuing yourself arises out of two core problems :
1. Low Self-Esteem
Self esteem is good. And the more you have, the better it is for you. No doubt the opposite is also true. Several reasons feed into having a Low Self Esteem. Could be your looks, they way you look at yourself, the confidence that you have to lead your life, etc. Be positive about yourself and always think positive. You are unique and be proud of that.
2. Not being serious in life
This is a very serious issue and requires 10000% more effort compared to when you have low self esteem. Why do people don’t take themselves seriously? It’s because they don’t have goals in life. They don’t know the mission why they were sent to this planet earth. They don’t know what they should accomplish. They try to find the purpose in life and pray to God that He help them. I say that you need to create the purpose in your life. Create that purpose for which you will wake up every morning to achieve. Read more about Achieving goals in 5 disciplined steps.
Create the purpose of your life. Set a goal that you would like to achieve and give it all that it takes to achieve your goal. You might stumble, fumble or fail; but don’t worry about it, keep your focus on your goal. My guru once told me that "What you focus on grows. If you focus on the problem, the problem will grow and if you focus on the solution, the solution will grow". So remember to remained focused on your goal.
Take some time off your daily schedule and go to a place where you feel comfortable. Be solitary there and think about your life and where it’s headed. Think… Think… Think… You will get your answer.
I would like to conclude this article with a story which will help you understand that if you value yourself, the world will as well.
A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a Rupee 500 note. In the room of 200, he asked, "Who would like this Rupee 500 note?" Hands started going up. He said, "I am going to give this note to one of you but first let me do this." He proceeded to crumple the note up. He then asked, "Who still wants it?" Still the hands were up in the air. "Well," he replied, "What if I do this?" And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now all crumpled and dirty. "Now who still wants it?" Still the hands went into the air.
"My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth Rupee 500/-.
Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value.
You are special. Don't ever forget it! Never let yesterday's disappointments overshadow tomorrow's dreams.
Forward this article to your friend to help him/her value themselves.
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